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6/18/2009 3:13:05 PM
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HSLDA's Homeschooling Thru the Early Years Newsletter

HSLDA's Homeschooling Thru the Early Years Newsletter -- June 2009
A Father's Role

Dear Friends,

With Father's Day just around the corner, I asked my friend Steve
Lambert to share a few of the things he's learned along the way as he
and Jane have homeschooled their children and helped thousands of
other families on the journey. . . .


The Most Important Ten Minutes in Homeschooling...

So you and your wife have decided to homeschool, eh? Congratulations!
You're on the most important journey you'll ever take as a family. And
now you're wondering how you can help, right? You're already working
overtime to make ends meet. There aren't enough hours in the day to
complete the many commitments you already have at work, at home, at
church, and elsewhere. So how can you make the greatest impact on your
family's homeschool experience?

It's so easy, most of us overlook it. It's those first ten minutes
when you walk in the door from work. Your wife has been mentoring,
teaching, encouraging, disciplining, testing, grading, and changing
diapers all day long. She needs to know that you understand the
sacrifice she's made today. She needs you to NOT look at the pile of
bills on the kitchen table, to NOT look at today's scores on ESPN, to
NOT look at what's on the stove for dinner and to NOT look at the lawn
that needs mowing. She needs you to look her directly in the eyes and
ask her, "So tell me about your day, sweetheart."

And then listen. That's it. Just listen and maintain eye contact.

She doesn't need you to fix every problem or necessarily DO anything.
She just needs five minutes to tell you about all that she did today,
and then have you say, "I'm so very thankful that of all the people in
the world who could be teaching our children, it's you that's making
the difference every day." She will light up like you've seldom seen
her, just to know you care about what she's doing--and that you

So that's only five minutes, but I said ten minutes, right? Right!

Now go spend the OTHER five minutes with your children. Ask them about
THEIR day. Ask to see the work they did today, the projects they
worked on, the tests they took. Remember: Maintain eye contact! Just
let them tell you about THEIR day--the discoveries, the achievements,
the frustrations, and the disappointments. Just listen. And then say,
"Wow! You did ALL THAT while daddy was at work today?! I am SO VERY
PROUD of you. THANK YOU for doing such great work today!"

Your job is hard. You get paid for doing it, and hopefully you get
some recognition for what you do. Well, your wife's and kids' jobs are
hard, too. And a little recognition and appreciation from you each
day will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE to them tomorrow--and every day.

Happy Father's Day--and thanks for all YOU do to make homeschooling
happen in your home.

Steve Lambert
Publisher, Five in a Row Curriculum (
Board of Directors, FCHM.ORG


I hope Steve's words will encourage you as you undertake this
challenge. And to you single moms who are filling the roles of mom and
dad--I applaud you and I pray that the Lord will strengthen you and be
a husband to you.

Happy Father's Day!
Vicki Bentley
HSLDA Early Years Coordinator

Read tips from other dads who have been-there-done-that in "Dad to
Dad," including words of wisdom from Scott Somerville, Bill Roach,
Jeff Myers, Wade Hulcy, and Jim Bentley .

For more articles and resources to encourage and equip you, visit .
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