When that first baby arrives, mom has to shift her focus. Michael Farris and Terri Camp will discuss balancing the needs of children and husbands on this edition of Home School Heartbeat.
Terri, you and Steve have eight kids; Vickie and I have ten. We both know what it's like to have many people with a lot of needs in the house. Has your "I'm going to be a perfect mom if it kills me" motto ever gotten in the way of your marriage?
Absolutely. You know, as homeschool moms, we spend so much time devoted to our kids. And by the end of the day, we're exhausted. I mean, the phrase "I'm too tired" came from a homeschool mom, I'm sure, because we're so tired. And I think we're fed this idea that we have to just keep producing all day long and we get to a point where we burn out really fast.
And one thing that Steve and I have done is that we've decided we have to take time together to be alone-and that means I have to plan it. And at first I was resentful that I had to plan everything, because it just added more, but those times alone have been so special to us. And it could just be driving around in the car-you know, a few miles in the car together or something-that it doesn't have to cost a lot of money. But it's such a good time. And we get to relate to each other so much, so that at the end of the day I'm more refreshed than exhausted.
Terri, as you've found, the whole family benefits when a husband and wife invest in each other. I'm Mike Farris.
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