The Home School Court Report
VOLUME IV, NUMBER III
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Summer 1988
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Cover Stories

Education in the Soviet Union by Michael Farris

A Personal Note to Fathers by J. Michael Smith

Victory in Hawaii

The School Year in Review: Contact Countdown

California Update

Ohio Private Schools in the Home by J. Michael Smith

Home Schooling Bill Signed into Law in South Carolina

NEA, NAESP, and NASBE Adopt Positions on Home Schooling

Maine Improves

PA Victory May Come in Legislature

Michigan Gains Ground

A Letter from Alice Blackwelder

The True Origin of “Separation of Church and State”

Gimme That Old Time Education

Features

President's Corner

Across the States

COVER STORY

A Personal Note to Fathers by J. Michael Smith

(Because of the timeliness of this issue, HSLDA desired to reprint this article, which originally appeared in the March–June 1987 issue.)

I would like to share with you from my heart one of the burdens I have regarding home schooling. That burden is that we dads are not participating enough in the overall home school educational program of our children. Obviously, because most of us are employed full-time outside the home, the primary teaching responsibility will fall to mom. However, this does not have to always be true. Even though we are outside the home five days a week (or even more) during the day, the flexibility of home teaching allows fathers to participate at night by teaching various courses. These courses could be ones we are especially interested in or, perhaps, ones that mom is not particularly interested in or does not feel capable of teaching.

As I travel across the country speaking to home schoolers, one of the greatest needs I hear expressed by home schooling mothers is the need for more support from the fathers. Many times this can take the form of simply babysitting in terms of relieving mother from the continuous, relentless pressure of the presence of the children. One suggestion, was that mother should be able to have a day to herself, if she so desires. For instance, dad could make Saturday his day to spend with the children. Normally, this would mean taking the children outside the home so mother could do things she cannot do during the week when the children are about. Alternatively, dad could stay at home with the children while mom runs necessary errands, or simply enjoys her freedom that she is not allowed because of her responsibilities during the week.

My primary concern, however, is that dads need to take a more aggressive role in the family regarding the legal aspects of home schooling. It is true that many times when a contact is initiated by the school district, the father is not at home and the mother must respond. It is my desire to see a “responsible guideline” established and drawn up by the father and mother when a family begins this process of home schooling. I would suggest that these guidelines would provide that, upon contact, the mother would indicate that she would like to channel all school district communications through her husband. This accomplishes several things.

First it gives the family the opportunity to respond in a thoughtful and prayerful way. In other words, they are not merely shooting from the hip, but they have a plan, and that plan involved mutual discussion and prayer on their part. Secondly, the pressure of this contact should be born together, not only by the mother. Too many times, I am seeing the mother under tremendous pressure from this contact, and in many situations, it appears that the mother feels that she is in it by herself. My personal conviction is that God has designed the father in the family as a protection for the rest of the family. Therefore, in the area of legal matters, and specifically contacts from school officials, the father should be the primary spokesperson. I realize that in certain families, we have some men reluctant to talk. However, God may allow certain things to happen in a family to cause the father to move forward and take more of a leadership role in the area of home education. I know one home schooling lawyer that feels so strongly about this matter, that whenever he is called by the mother explaining that she has been contacted by school officials, he requires the father to call him back. Although I am not this dogmatic in my own approach, I do believe we need to see more active involvement on the part of dads, especially in this area of the legal ramifications of home schooling.

Let’s be sensitive to the needs of our wives so that our home schools have the possibility of being everything God desires for our families.