The Home School Court Report
Vol. XXVI
No. 3
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May/June
2010

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by Cherise Ryan Curby
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The Rewards of His Faithfulness

For many widows and single parents, the journey of homeschooling can be very lonely and overwhelming. The Home School Foundation works hard to reach as many struggling homeschooling families as possible, but we cannot spread the word without help.

The Home School Foundation helps struggling families.

As we recently celebrated the Foundation’s 15th anniversary, we were sobered to hear from Stacy Saxton, a widowed homeschooling mom of 17 years who had not only never heard of the Foundation, but also thought she was the only single parent “crazy enough” to homeschool.

Stacy was encouraged to find that there were many more like herself-parents dedicated to homeschooling their children, even if it meant doing it alone. She shared her story with the Foundation in hopes of encouraging other single parents that God will see them through the journey:

Looking back, I find it hard to believe that I’ve been a widowed, single, homeschooling mom for almost 17 years. Only by the grace of God.

My husband, Don, was killed in a car accident when our second child was just 7 weeks old. I remember trying to wrap my mind around the fact that I was 25, the mother of two, and widowed. Not possible, I thought. But with a busy toddler and a newborn demanding my care, and a wonderful supportive church, I began doing the only thing I could—putting one foot in front of another and walking the path God had placed me on.

It had always been Don’s and my desire to home educate our children. So I began right away. When the younger, Timothy, was down for naps, I would play letter games with my toddler, Amanda... . She began reading at 3, Timothy by age 4. But homeschooling was still hard. Even though God provided all we needed (I was able to stay home for the first 10 years and have managed on part-time jobs since then), emotionally, it was still often draining.

I could not even begin to guess at the number of days I cried, exhausted. Or, the number of days I prayed, “God, you’re their Father. Do something!” Many days I thought that I would have to give up, that I could not do a good enough job... . I did not know any other single-parent homeschoolers. I thought I was the only one crazy enough to attempt it.

But the rewards of His faithfulness! Both my children are walking with the Lord. Having been sheltered during those formative years and shown “a more excellent way” by a loving church family, they are not struggling with the immaturity and poor choices so many other children from single-parent homes struggle with.

This year will be my last year as a homeschooling mother. Surprisingly, it is proving to be the most difficult one, both financially and emotionally. Often (daily?) I cry, often I beg women at the church to pray for me, and often I sense my faithful God reminding me that He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

My fellow single moms, if I could tell you one thing, I would say this: It’s okay to cry. It’s even okay to cry in front of your children. Psalm 56:3 says, “When I am afraid I will trust in You.” Hard times will happen. But God is “able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think.” In Him is victory!

Please help us spread the word. If you know homeschooling widows or single parents, direct them to the Foundation and help us reach them with hope and encouragement. Visit our website or call us at 540-338-8688.

Cherise Ryan Curby is administrative assistant to the executive director of HSF.

From the Director

Chuck Hurst
Chuck Hurst

Some families are stretched so thin, even the $10 a month for HSLDA membership is beyond their means. That’s why, in 2001, we set up our Members Helping Members Fund.

These gifts have meant a great deal to the recipients. Here’s a note from one who was deeply touched:

The last seven years have been difficult and, at times, very discouraging. There have been many days I have prayed Psalm 143:8, “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you.” This membership scholarship was a word of God’s unfailing love on the day it was received. Thank you!
—Karen M. / KY
Thanks to all of you who generously contributed to stand with these homeschoolers in their time of need, the Foundation was privileged to help over 500 families pay for HSLDA membership in 2009.
—Chuck Hurst, Executive Director

For more details on how you can help, please call HSF at 540-338-8688, visit our website or email info@homeschoolfoundation.org.