The Home School Court Report
VOLUME XIX, NUMBER 1
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JANUARY / FEBRUARY 2003


FEATURES

State organizations: Making our voices heard

Illinois homeschoolers facing the heat

DEPARTMENTS
Along the way

The curtain rises on HSLDA

Looking toward the future
From the heart
Across the states
About Campus
Active Cases
Around the globe
President's page

The impact of a father's involvement

Practical ways that husbands can help their wives

ET AL.

Prayer & Praise

a contrario sensu (on the other hand)

HSLDA legal contacts for September/October 2002



  A WORD FROM MIKE SMITH  



PRESIDENT'S PAGE

The impact of a father's involvement

Let's face it menówe often need a good bit of prodding to get off the recliner, put down the paper, and get involved. Though many dads spend the day striving for success in the workplace, at home we tend to relax and trust the job of childrearing and teaching our children at home to our wives. But dads, God commands us to be the spiritual head of our home. We need to take on this job with gusto!

How can dads get more involved? First, develop a spiritual vision for our home and our children. Remember, God has promised to supply all our needs according to his riches in glory through Christ Jesus. He will meet your needs as a father to be the spiritual head and the leader of his family.

What are the things we want our children to learn before they leave home? I suggest you sit down alone with your wife and together make a list of the spiritual goals that you have for your children. For example, you probably would want your children to be sure of their salvation, to love and understand God's Word, and to have a desire to obey God and serve others.

The most important thing husbands can do to relieve stress and raise the "happy" level of our wives is first to develop our own intimate relationship with God and secondly, to meet our wives' needs. The number one need expressed by most women is the need for affection, love, and tenderness. Conversation is a close second.

Homeschool moms face unique pressures. This is something my wife shared with me some years ago and other moms have shared with her. Homeschool moms have few routine changes in their day. They feel the full responsibility for the education of their children, and it is easy for them to feel that school is never out. They must constantly respond properly and patiently to their children and they feel a need for their husbands to be actively involved in the childrearing and the education of their children.

God has given the recipe in Ephesians 5:25 for how we can meet those needs: "Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it."

Loving our wives is not an option, it is a command. It's unconditional. It's not dependent upon our wife's submission. Our love is not based on whether we feel our wife deserves it or not. The picture of love, as demonstrated in Ephesians 5:25 is sacrifice. Death to self. This means as husbands, we cannot be content with a lousy marriage. It is not enough just to be committed not to divorce. Our attitude towards our wife affects the whole family. In fact, Lou Priolo, in his book The Heart of Anger, indicates that the number one cause of rebellion in children is lack of marital harmony.

It is a big job men. As a matter of fact, it's impossible for us. But all things are possible with God. He has called us into being homeschool dads, and if He has called us, He will enable us if we submit to His will. May God bless your efforts as you determine to be an active, involved homeschooling dad and husband.