I am so thankful for the wonderful resources available to families who are teaching children with special needs. Technology tools, low tech adaptive equipment, multi-sensory curriculum options―these are just some of the resources that make it possible to successfully teach a child with special needs at home. In addition to those tools that you can ‘buy’ are the wonderful people resources that homeschooling families can access. One such person is Barbara Newman who is a church and school consultant for the great folks at CLC Network. She is a special education teacher, author, and speaker who has a passion for creating environments that include, support, and celebrate people with disabilities. This week, I am pleased to introduce Barbara as a guest blogger. Enjoy!
Earlier this week, we blogged about simple strategies you can use to ease the intense stress persons with disabilities may experience during the holidays. Often communicated with significant behavior changes, the underlying message might be “I’m overwhelmed”, “You changed my schedule”, “Why did you put a tree in our living room”, “There are too many people stuffed into this room”, or “I am on complete sensory overload”. While all of these ideas won’t work for everyone, here are even more ideas for you to try to create a positive time of celebration for each family member.
1. Who needs to know? Many times extended families get together, and yet cousins or friends may not really understand the individual with the disability. It might be helpful for parents or the person with the disability to send out a quick update to family members prior to an event. This update could include:
- "How Brent has grown this year”
- “Activities and topics Brent enjoys doing or discussing”
- “Activities and topics to avoid with Brent”
- “Some things that Brent may really enjoy when we gather for Christmas (or other holiday)”
- “Some things that might be challenging for Brent at our celebration”
- "Some gifts Brent might enjoy receiving”
- "Some gifts to avoid”
2. “It is better to give than to receive” – and many times we think our family member with a disability should only be the recipient of gifts, and not the giver. How can that person use an area of interest or gifting to provide something for others? Would it be the gift of a dance or song? Could that individual provide the cookies for dessert? Might that person enjoy a trip to a dollar store to pick out something for each guest or family member? What about a wall decoration or a note card for each guest with a favorite picture of an animal or area of interest? Find a way for that individual to also receive the joy of giving.
3. Prepare in advance a way your family member can participate in the holiday traditions. Be creative. Think of ways you have made the holiday meaningful and consider ways your family member with a disability may be involved. Some ideas you could try include:
Do you collect prayer requests or notes indicating things for which each family member is thankful to incorporate into the celebration? How might that family member participate? Would it be helpful to have pictures of familiar items so that the individual can point to or pick up the prayer request and hand it to the one praying?
- How about singing? Could you have a colorful streamer or small rhythm instrument available so that a person without words could participate with movement?
- How about programming a portion of Luke 2 on an iPad or other device so that pushing a button will allow an individual to read a portion of the Bible? Adding figures or using the manger scene on the mantel may be a way for an individual to better understand or even help move or tell the Christmas story.
And if you missed our post from Monday, here are the suggestions we shared:
1. Find some pictures of the celebration from last year. If it will be similar, put together a photo album or story of that event so that the individual can remember it in pictures and written words prior to attending a similar event this year.
2. Put together a schedule of events for your party. Whether in words and/or pictures, let the person know the planned order. Some individuals enjoy crossing off or removing the individual schedule items as they are completed.
3. Many times we redecorate or rearrange rooms to fit more people. Consider setting it up a day ahead and visiting that room without people in it. Let the individual explore the changes without the added stress of people. Perhaps leave something on a chair or in a certain place so that you can “reserve a spot” for the event when you arrive. The individual will know to find that space or item to make a more comfortable entry.
4. Give that individual a “job” to do. Perhaps they could be the photographer, back massager, coffee or beverage server, greeter (be the first to arrive and assimilate guests more slowly – often a better choice for some persons), or card distributer. Many times, a helping role will not only use the gifts of an individual, but it gives the person a clear sense of what to do in that environment.
5. Designate a “safe zone”. It might be helpful to show that family member a quiet and designated space in the home or building where there would be a calming and preferred activity. It might be a mini tramp, rocking chair, a favorite book, or quiet classical music in a more isolated space where one might be able to find a refuge if the senses get overloaded.
What about you? How does your family or community include persons with disabilities during this season? We’d love to hear – please share in the comment section below!
Did you find these suggestions helpful?
Barbara J. Newman is a church and school consultant for CLC Network and a special education teacher at Zeeland Christian School. She is the author of numerous books, including her latest Nuts and Bolts of Inclusive Education. She is a frequent national speaker at educational conferences and churches.