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Mar 25, 2013

Conversational Competence, Continued

MaryAnn Gaver

As a follow-up to the first blog, Conversational Competence, I wanted to clarify what I meant by reminding our kids that "shyness isn't a virtue."  Here's the heart behind the message...

Obviously, people have different personalities, and that's a wonderful thing.  I wanted to gently encourage moms to be aware of opportunities to teach our kids how to be loving and polite, and how to train them to be good conversationalists as they grow up. 

Certainly we aim to foster individuality, allowing our kids to be themselves, have their own style, and remain quiet if need be.

It's all about encouragement -- and not about coming down on people who are shy. 

In our fast-paced, sound-bite society, it's easy for all of us to opt-out of deep conversation. I think that it's important for all of us to acknowledge people, and for kids to gain skills in conversing when the time is right, of course.  I'm not at all suggesting that we make our little ones talk with strangers!

Hey, I've been guilty of completely ignoring the cashier at the grocery store, not engaging in any discourse simply because I chose to take a phone call.  So, I'm working on being more courteous and aware of the people right in front of me at the moment.   

One homeschooling mom,  Margie, says it so well:

"I have taught my children that, 'It's always right to be polite.'  I believe the point of virtues is having true balance.  I have both shy children and overly chatty ones; the virtue lies in finding the balance."

Thanks, Margie! Have a wonderful day!